who is?.....

Today in my Anthro class my polo coach came in with some other teachers and awarded me the "Scholar Baller Award"...this award it given to athletes who demonstrate strong academics and athletics’..... Just one thought "wow”

Sometimes i wonder who i will end up marrying ...what they will look like, what type of person they are and i wonder what juncture in their life they are in as i type this... in my lit class there are these two students Melvin and Tony.... These two student are engaged and had their first kid two weeks into winter term...they came from nor cal and need this one class in order to get their bachelors in Communications (Melvin) and Psychology (Tony the woman).... the couple comes to class every day, which is amazing considering they have a ONE MONTH old child....but that’s not the reason for this post.... i was under the assumption that like the only reason they were together was because she got knocked up....the other day we got a like 15 min break in-between taking our midterm and starting a new lesson... to make a long story short during this break i noticed how Melvin interacted with Tony.... and to my surprise Melvin is truly in loves with her... like making the first move to grab her hand and stuff like that....the best way i can describe this is its like that first week when you start going out with someone and like all you want to do is talk and be around that person...and it seems like relationships go in waves the honeymoon in the beginning then like reality where you two start to jell together and so on…my sociology book says that these are the relationship stages

1) Contact:

a) Perceptual: noticing how parties look at each other and their body-language.

b) Interactional cues: nodding, maintaining eye-contact, etc.

c) Invitational: encouraging the potential relationship (for example, suggesting a later meeting involving some social lubricant such as coffee)

d) Avoidance strategies: if one person discloses and the other does not: minimal response, lack of eye-contact, etc.

2) Involvement:

a) Feelers: hints or questions (for example: asking about family)

b) Intensifying strategies: furthering the relationship (for example meeting an old friend, bringing the other to meet family, becoming more affectionate, etc.)

c) Public: parties seen in public together often (if in a romantic relationship, may involve holding hands)

3) Intimacy- parties very close; may have exchanged some sort of personal belonging or something that represents further commitment.

4) Deterioration- things start to fall apart. In a romantic relationship, typically after approximately six months people move out of the so-called "honeymoon stage", NRE, or limerence and start to notice flaws. The way they address this determines the fate of the relationship.

…it seems that despite like two years together this couple is still in that honeymoon stage, which I find just amazing…

It is our choices ... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.

So at my last polo game I strained my back not a big deal so my coach told me to skip practice today and see the trainer….i go in there waiting for this 40 year old man to ice me up…for some strange reason he gives treatment to the two volleyball girls behind me… (they are in their spandex) ….wtf… they were really hot so I dint really say anything… but that’s not my point.....wtf ...

In my sociology class today my teacher tried to convince my class that having a universal health care system was bad, because “what doctor would want to go to school for 6 years to earn crap money”….wait there’s more.. he then went on to tell us how wrong congress was for wanting to pull out of Iraq…because “war is what bring peace and is good for the country”…this reminds me how great a teacher mr regan was…he never showed any political party bias...  its not that big of a deal other than I want to express myself but at the same time I want to protect my grade…

To continue with this constant theme of “what is missing in college”….i really miss you guys…I fell arash completely  with what he said in his last post about seeing you guys over break...anyways every morning I wake up at like 5 30 and drive to school…during the drives I put my ipod on shuffle and set the cruse control to about 85 and jam to practice… you know how you have a certain song that just reminds you of a person or event...over the past 48 hours I have listened to a song that remind me of each of you..its really freaky

Perfect situation  & Hate it or love it– Weezer (Arash)

Slow motion ( Laura/ Sol)

Jin blossoms (taylor)

Belle & Sebastian (emma)

Bill Withers (Adam)

Come On Eileen (carrie)

Im fly (albert)

Buena Vista Social Club (erin)

Toxic (Sinead)

Any modest mouse (cassie)

You- Lloyd (mitch)

I Can go the Distance (Grace)

And

Daft Punk – one more time  (last chance dance)

-there were many more but that’s all I can remember off the top of my head

Anyways cant wait to see you all over break

“since we all came from a women, got our name from a women, and our game from a women. I wonder why we take from women, why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think its time we killed for our women, be real to our women, try to heal our women, cus if we dont we'll have a race of babies that will hate the ladies, who make the babies. And since a man can't make one he has no right to tell a women when and where to create one”

“My mama always used to tell me: 'If you can't find somethin' to live for, you best find somethin' to die for.”